Guys, we have been brought up with BE STRONG, BIG BOYS DON’T CRY, STIFF UPPER LIP. We have to be the strong provider for the family, the “front” of the family.
What this means is that we tend to build a brick wall that is painted and perfectly pointed, looks strong to the outside world. However if we look at what’s behind the wall that we have put up then we see a garden full of weeds, the path is overgrown and the wall is in fact a brick veneer, attached to a rotting wooden fence that is eventually going to fall down
We need to be vulnerable, we need to show people what is behind the wall that we have put up then people will notice the weeds and offer to help us bring the garden back to how it should be.
We are then strong inside and out.